Denial helps us to lessen the overwhelming pain of loss. It can be very difficult to believe we have lost a loved one in our lives, especially when we have only recently been with this person just a few short hours ago. It can take our mind some time to come to terms with the reality of what has happened and we can become overwhelmed with how we are going to move forward in life without them.
Being angry is a common experience after the loss of a loved one and can allow an emotional outlet. When we are trying to adjust to our new reality, we can experience extreme emotion and discomfort.
When faced with the unthinkable, you would do anything to stop the unbearable pain and fear of loosing a loved one. During loss we can therefore find ourselves bargaining and making deals with God.
Deep sadness can often lead to depression, not to mention the worry and stress connected to the funeral and costs. The regret of all the things we did or did not say can also weigh heavily on our minds. Not having the privilege of saying goodbye is another hard blow for the person left behind and this is another contributing factor to depression.
Accepting grief and loss is how we heal. Time has always been the great healer and we all reach that place in our own time. When death is sudden or unexpected we sometimes never see beyond our anger or denial, therefore acceptance can take some much longer.