Muslim Burials

The UK is an ethnically and religiously diverse country, which practices many different faiths and burials. Similar to other faiths that believe in the afterlife Muslims believe that in life if you follow the Islamic religious codes and do good deeds you will be granted entry into eternal Paradise.

As this is such an important ceremony certain rules and customs are put in place so the deceased can pass over in piece. Muslims are buried very soon after death usually within 24 hours if possible, which means no viewing, embalming or family visits. The body is washed by family members of the same gender usually 3 times before being taken to a mosque, this is called Ghusl. The (Kafan) is when the deceased is wrapped in large sheets, men traditionally would have 3 sheets and women would have five. 

Cremation is prohibited and all Muslim burial graves face Mecca. The deceased would then be placed in position so that their right side faces the holy city.  Whilst the body is lowered into the grave the congregation will pray. Most all of the mourners will be male however some Muslim communities allow women to attend the burial. 

The grave is 12 inches above ground level, this will not allow anyone to walk or sit on the grave. The funeral is usually quick, lasting only 30 to 60 minutes with prayer and readings from the Quran. During the prayers, everyone must face Mecca and mourners will each place 3 handfuls of soil into the grave. 

The Islamic religion view death as a transition to the afterlife and if you have lived a good life they believe you will go to paradise. 

The grave is then marked with a small stone or marker so that it is recognisable. It is prohibited to decorate the grave or erect any large monument.  This is because outwardly lavish displays are discouraged in Islam.  

How and why to live stream funerals in 2021

Funeral live streaming has increased significantly this past year due to Covid, but is it here to stay? Covid restrictions have made all aspects of life more difficult, but losing a loved one, and not being able to share the grief with friends and family, can be unbearable. Funeral live streaming allows for this important moment to be shared as the ceremony can be witnessed by anyone from anywhere. This technology makes travel, cost, timing and restrictions irrelevant.

How to live stream funerals

Streaming is absolutely something you can do on your own. Depending on your technical ability you can set up a webcam, DSLR or even a smartphone. Here are some tips to help you set up a live stream.

Audio

Live stream funerals

People often spend a lot of time considering what it will look like and forget about the audio quality. A funeral is a celebration of life: stories, sentiments and kind words are shared. It’s important your online guests can hear what is said. Make sure to test the sound quality of the built-in mic by recording a test phrase when setting up. Listen back to it, are the words clear? If not there are external mics available to buy or hire. You can place it closer to the stage or on a podium for clearer sound quality.

Where to share

Live stream funerals

There are plenty of suitable platforms for your funeral live stream. You just need to pick one that is free to use, has social media integration, privacy control and chat features. Here are a few we recommend: Facebook Live, Zoom, Google Hangouts, YouTube Live or Facetime. Just make sure only invited guests have a link and are allowed to join. You should also make sure someone can keep an eye on the live stream, and if anything goes wrong it’s always good to have a backup. Don’t forget to record as well. It can be a nice memory to hold so loved ones can watch again at a later date.

Connecting

Live stream funerals

Now you have set up the invitees and the stream privacy you need to make sure everyone knows how to access the funeral live stream. Send guests an email or message with a link and detailed instructions on how to join. Think about making a short online tutorial for the older members of the family. Don’t forget to test the internet connection where the ceremony is taking place. If there isn’t any or it’s very slow it’s possible to set up a hotspot using your phone’s 4G connection. Be sure to test this in advance.

Bring in the Professionals

Live stream funerals

Although setting up your own funeral live stream is possible, and a great way to save a little on the cost of the funeral, it may be a bit too much to handle on this emotional day. Professional services can take the weight off your shoulders and keep your mind clear and focused on what’s important; the life and celebration of your loved one. There are plenty available so make sure to check the reviews and select one that suits your needs.

Have a look at our free funeral services directory to find a live stream funeral service near you.

How to Scatter Ashes In the UK

Symbolism & Significance: What does scattering ashes mean? - Urns ...

Scattering ashes and returning them to the earth is just one of so many choices. Choosing a location is important if you do decide to scatter your ashes. Consider certain things such as the likelihood of disturbed or become busy with onlookers that may hinder your ceremony. It’s very important to check the (scattering ashes law regulations the UK) 

Losing your loved one is often a heartbreaking experience. It can be very difficult to figure out the right way to remember them and honour their wishes.  

Times are changing and being willing to think of death ahead of you will help in so many ways. 

It’s a very personal thing so never worry what other people think, be as adventurous or as traditional as you like.  

Keeping your loved one at home is a great way to honour and keep them close but it can also make it difficult for others to visit and pay their respect. 

While traditional urns and scattering of ashes are still very popular, other options are plentiful and ashes can become almost anything these days. With a little imagination, anything is possible…. 

Top trends for cremation ashes in 2021

  1. Tattoo the ashes of your loved one, keeping them with you at all times.
  2. Fireworks made from the ashes of your loved one, create a farewell with a bang.
  3. A personal Portrait that includes the ashes within the portrait.
  4. For the music lover, have the ashes made into vinyl.
  5. For the diver, an underwater reef.
  6. A beautiful diamond solitaire can be made from Ashes 
  7. Grow a wonderful tree from Ashes. Choose their favourite type.
  8. Scattering ashes at sea, some companies now specialise in this. Check the regulations for this including EPA. 
  9. Art, ashes can become beautiful pieces of glass art. Choose something significant to the memory of your loved one.
  10. From the sky, either by plane, skydive or shoot your ashes to space letting your loved one continue their journey under the stars. 

Mental Health – Suicide Prevention awareness

Chris Mead / Dedhapi

My Story

I hope this helps explain why I’m so keen to raise money for men’s mental health.

As some of you know, I lost my dad to a heart attack when I was 19. Out of know where he was gone, my whole life darkened suddenly. He was, and still is my idol and I’ve never been able to fill that void. Being quite distant from both sides of my family, it felt very lonely.

For a few years I kept myself busy and tried to ignore the grief. I started to get chest pains causing me to have panic attacks. In turn these panic attacks caused further chest pains and a vicious cycle was born. I began having these in social situations, which started my anxiety. As this anxiety built more over time, I became quieter and more reserved. Slowly, I started avoiding social situations. Distancing myself from friends. Yet again feeling alone.

Many might not have realised, as like many people suffering from depression and anxiety, I wore a mask. I ‘toughened up’ and ‘got on with it’. This isn’t a solution.

Thankfully, I’ve had some close friends and family that have reached out and stuck by me. I began to recognise I had a problem and chose to sort it out. I spoke to people, I got help from the NHS and some amazing local charities. Mind, ThinkAction and Cruse have been incredible.

I’ve started to deal with my issues, but many others will suffer in silence. I wanted to share this to show that we can talk about it. It matters and we need to bury the stigma. You don’t have to donate, but check in with your friends or family. Offer support to those that need it. Stop men dying too young.

I raised £865 after riding 300 miles over the course of a month. The longest single ride was 45 miles from Rochester to Whitstable. I had various friends who would join me on rides over weekends.

Movember started in Australia with men growing moustaches over the month of November to help raise awareness for prostate cancer, growing to a global audience and then expanding to help raise awareness for the biggest killer in young men – suicide.

Whilst riding to raise money towards this amazing charity, I also grew a handsome moustache!  On the final day of Movember, fundraisers are encouraged to ‘fly half mast’ in respect of the 357 men who took their own lives during the month.

Resources & Stats

Globally, every minute, a man dies by suicide.

In United Kingdom, 75% of suicides are men. (5,000 annually)

510,000 men die from suicide each year. That’s one every minute. (Globally)

More teenagers and young adults die from suicide than from cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, stroke, pneumonia, influenza, and chronic lung disease, COMBINED.

1 in 8 men in the UK will experience a mental health problem at some point in their lives. Not enough talk about it. Somethings got to change. 

Male suicide is the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK

The causes of suicide are complex. There’s no single reason why men take their own lives, but we do know that by improving overall mental health we can reduce the risk of suicide. We need to address untreated mental health conditions among men.

Links

Movember Charity

https://uk.movember.com/

https://uk.movember.com/mens-health/mental-health

Support

https://www.mind.org.uk/ – Mental Health Support

https://www.thinkaction.org.uk/ – Mental Health Counselling Support

https://www.cruse.org.uk/ – Bereavement Support

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/blog/stigma-around-mental-health-men-real

Mental Health in the Workplace

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/get-involved/get-your-workplace-involved

https://mhfaengland.org/

https://www.mind.org.uk/workplace/

https://www.medway.gov.uk/info/200221/a_better_medway/573/workplace_health